“Never give up and don’t ask why because every situation does not need an answer. I’m a firm believer that I don’t worry about anything I can’t control.”
Let’s face it. Sometimes you’re stuck. It can feel like there are secrets for being happy, and you just don’t know what they are.
Whether its the job market, the job you already have that’s just about killing you, or some other difficult situation, it can be really hard to be happy and upbeat in the face of it.
You don’t want to walk around miserable, spewing bile on the poor soul who is
brave stupid enough to ask you how your day is.
But you just can’t seem to get over what you’re dealing with right now. And what’s worse, you don’t feel you have any control at all over the situation. You’re stuck.
Or are you?
You know, we’ve all been there. But the truth is it can be really hard to see what you do actually have control over from inside a situation.
So in order to help you out, I was able to get 5 modern day philosophers – some of the top personal development bloggers, to give up their secrets for being happy, even when you’re stuck in something bad.
And I didn’t even have to hang them by their ankles and shake! They were all kind enough to share their secrets freely.
I asked all of them one simple question, but the answers they gave are strewn with pearls of hard-earned wisdom.
Here’s the question:
What one piece of advice would you give someone who feels stuck in a life or a situation (i.e. a job) that they don’t like, in order to make them happier?
Here’s what they said:
Sybil Chavis created PossibilityofToday.com after changing her entire life through giving up complaining for 40 days. Incredible, right? She says:
I think the best thing to do when you’re unhappy with your current situation is to take 30 minutes every morning and for the first 5 minutes ask yourself questions:
Kevin Cole is a life coach and the creator of PerformDestiny.com. I would tell you that one of the reasons I like him so much is that he’s got a no-nonsense, cut-to-the-chase style. He would tell you he doesn’t do bullshit:
You don’t have to accept this.You can do something else.
Your well-being doesn’t have to be determined by your shitty circumstances. This isn’t “just a part of life.”
Ask yourself big questions like: “What the hell do I really want to do?”
Start to set your course for a better life. If you take action, then your job becomes temporary.
So go put one foot in front of the other, hustle on nights and weekends, and turn your tough situation into an opportunity.
Aaron Morton is a coach and big cheese at TheConfidenceLounge.com. Aaron is extremely thoughtful, and he makes no exception here.
Our experts seem to agree. There are three things we really need to do:
1.Focus on what you can change,
2. Decide what you really want and work hard on creating it,
3. Be present and find joy right now.
Use this wisdom to help change your situation or change how you look at it or feel about it. Because you being stuck or staying stuck is not only bad for you, but it’s bad for everyone around you who doesn’t get to benefit from all the amazing things you might have done.
(If you’re in need of help getting unstuck, I just announced that I’m starting breakthrough sessions, which will help you get out of wherever you’re stuck, fast. Like in the next 60 minutes, fast.)
So tell me, whose answer did you connect with or resonate with?
Who did you learn something from?
What are your thoughts on my one simple question?
And what questions do you still have about how to actually pull this off?
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